- Posted by Admin
- On January 23, 2014
Absence does makes the heart grow fonder, but does geographical distance increase romantic closeness?
Usually we imagine that we need to live relatively close to each other and see each other often to develop a close romantic relationship.
However, a growing body of research by Aaron Ben-Zeez in the US indicates otherwise: His research has found that long-distance relationships often have an equal or greater value in maintaining and promoting romantic relationships.
So, is living apart together better than living together?
Closeness is a crucial element that determines the emotional intensity we feel with a partner, and we certainly need to have a certain amount of physical closeness to develop an intimate and emotionally connected connection. And love includes the wish to become as close as possible to the person we love.
But, despite this, there are now increasing numbers of romantic couples who live at a geographical distance from each other.
Take the example of what Aaron calls the Commuter marriage. A commuter marriage is a relationship between people who are married and intend to remain so, but nevertheless live apart, usually because of the locations of their jobs, educational demands, and dual-career pursuits. They travel regularly in order to be together, often on weekends but sometimes less frequently. These kind of distant relationships are now a growing form of romantic relationships.
Phone calls, videos, instant messaging, texting, and e-mails allow you to communicate immediately in order to sustain a continuous meaningful romantic relationship despite the geographical distance.