Score range: 0-12 What you're describing goes beyond normal jealousy.
Your answers paint a picture that’s important to take seriously. What you’re living with isn’t the kind of jealousy that most couples navigate – the occasional pang, the moment of insecurity that passes. What you’re describing is a pattern that is significantly affecting your freedom, your wellbeing and your sense of self.
When jealousy leads to checking, controlling, restricting who you see or what you do, or behaviour that frightens or demeans you – it has crossed a line. Not a line that defines your partner as a bad person. But a line that matters for your safety and your quality of life.
It’s worth naming something clearly here. What you’re describing shares characteristics with coercive control – a pattern of behaviour that limits your freedom and autonomy, often in the name of love or insecurity. That doesn’t mean it’s intentional, or that your partner doesn’t love you. But it does mean it’s serious, and it’s not something that tends to resolve on its own.
You may have normalised a lot of what you’re experiencing – when something happens gradually, over time, in the context of a relationship you’ve invested in, it can be hard to see it clearly from the inside. This quiz is an invitation to look at it from the outside for a moment.
You deserve to feel free, trusted and safe in your relationship. If you don’t, that matters.
Whatever comes next, you shouldn’t be navigating this alone.
If your partner’s jealousy has crossed into behaviour that frightens you, controls your movements or isolates you from people you care about, please reach out to 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 – available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
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