Certified Relationship Therapist

More About Dearne

• What are three strengths you have as a Psychologist/Counsellor?
  • Empathy: I have the ability to understand and share the feelings of my clients, and to convey this to them in a respectful and compassionate way. This builds rapport, trust, and safety with my clients, and helps them feel heard and validated without judgment or criticism.
  • Intuition and Life Experience: I have the intuition and life experience to sense what my clients are going through, and to draw from my own personal and professional challenges and successes. This helps me to relate to my clients, offer them insights, and provide them with practical and realistic solutions.
  • Flexibility: I have the flexibility to adapt to the needs and preferences of my clients, and to use different approaches and techniques depending on the situation. I am open to learning new things and incorporating feedback into my practice. I also respect the diversity and individuality of my clients, and tailor my interventions to their cultural and personal backgrounds.
• How many years counselling experience do you have?

  Over 12 years.

• What is the most satisfying and fulfilling part of the work you do?

  Witnessing the transformation and healing that take place in my clients’ relationships and lives. I feel honoured to be a part of their journey and to see them grow, reconnect, and thrive as couples and individuals. I love seeing the positive changes that result from our sessions, such as increased understanding, empathy, affection, and happiness. I also enjoy learning from my clients and being challenged and inspired by them.

• What's an example of a couple you have helped the most?

  A couple came to see me with issues around communication, intimacy, and trust. They had been married for 10 years and had two children, but they felt distant and disconnected from each other. They often argued about trivial matters and avoided talking about their feelings and needs.

  I worked with them to identify and understand the underlying causes of their problems, such as unmet expectations, unresolved conflicts, and emotional wounds from their past. I helped them to express and listen to each other’s emotions and perspectives in a respectful and constructive way.

  I also helped them to rekindle their intimacy and romance, by encouraging them to spend quality time together, show affection and appreciation, and explore their sexual desires and fantasies. I helped them to rebuild their trust and commitment, by facilitating honest and transparent discussions about their values, goals, and boundaries. I also supported them to deal with any external stressors or challenges that affected their relationship, such as work, family, or health issues.

  The couple reported significant improvements in their relationship satisfaction, happiness, and harmony. They said they felt closer and more connected to each other, and they enjoyed their interactions and activities more. They also said they had fewer and less intense arguments, and they were able to resolve them more effectively.