Shelley is an experienced Counsellor & Psychotherapist, who left her middle management corporate life to pursue her passion. She is invested in helping couples to overcome their unconscious blocks to achieving the relationship/intimacy and connection they crave.
She genuinely believes that nobody intentionally sabotages their relationships or wishes to cause harm to those they love. So if that is your experience, rather than feeling like a failure, (if you choose) it can be an opportunity to grow and develop the skills needed to improve the quality of your relationship.
Too often people abandon a relationship believing it to be unsalvageable, when it can not only be saved, but improved way beyond what they believed possible. All it takes is a willingness to be open, honest, and experience the discomfort that comes with change. Unlike repeating the same old behaviour expecting a different outcome, this discomfort will end.
Shelley provides a non judgemental, connected, safe and solution focused space, which sees the therapist and the clients as partners in the experience. The client is always responsible for setting the vision and she will do her best to provide the “how to get there” opportunities, so the client can arrive at the “best fit” solution for themselves.
Should you choose to work with Shelley, you will grow your communication and ability to connect with the person that you love. You will learn about your patterns and triggers, and how to choose safer, kinder and more loving responses.
She has been in the field for some time, holding a comprehensive set of tools and experience to assist you in identifying and remove the blocks that you are experiencing. This includes enhancing emotional intelligence, understanding each others’ perspective, family of origin influences, love language, the assumption trap, managing conflict, and realising personal growth, so you can contribute positively to the relationship.
She is a warm, approachable human being who is committed to helping you heal the wounds you have inadvertently inflicted on each other so you can move forward into a relationship of your choosing.
In 2020, she published her first book, which demonstrates the links between family of origin (FOO), the safety behaviours/core beliefs that are created in response to our FOO and how they play out in our adult relationships with self and others.
