Score range: 12-22 You're still showing up. But you're exhausted - and it's starting to show.
There’s still something here. You can feel it – or at least you remember it. But right now your relationship is costing you more than it’s giving you, and that imbalance has been going on long enough that you’ve started to wonder whether this is just what relationships become.
It isn’t.
What your score reflects is a relationship that’s lost its way – not necessarily through one big dramatic moment, but through the slow accumulation of disconnection, unmet needs, unspoken resentments and the kind of distance that builds when two people stop truly seeing each other.
The things that matter most in a relationship – feeling safe, feeling valued, feeling like a team – are present for you in patches. Enough to keep you holding on. Not enough to feel good.
The risk at this stage is that the gap keeps quietly widening until one or both of you stops trying altogether. The good news is that this is also the stage where the right support makes the most difference – because there’s still enough foundation to build from, if you’re both willing.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about two people who may have simply run out of the tools to find their way back to each other. That’s what therapy is for.
Running on empty is not a permanent state – but it does require a refill.
Your relationship matters. For over 20 years, we’ve helped over 83,000 clients as Australia’s leading couples counselling group. With over 230+ Hart Centre Certified therapists, finding yours is easy.
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