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 Table of Contents

Module 1 – Overview
1.1a: 5 stage Model of Relationship Development
1.1: Overview 
1.2: Attachment Theory & Interventions
1.2.1: Attachment styles and Relationship characteristics
1.3: Attachment Questionnaire
1.3.1: Horowitz 4 Attachment Styles
1.3.2: Attachment Questionnaire
1.4: Bowen Family Systems Theory
1.5: Differentiation Questionnaire
1.6: An Integrative Theory

Module 2 – Clean -Up Issues: Psychological Conditions, Self medication, Verbal Abuse
2.1: Clean-Up Issues Checklist
2.2: The Agreement from Verbal Abuse

Module 3 – Power and Control struggles
3.4: Self Esteem and boundaries
3.5: Self Esteem and boundaries Questionnaire

Module 4 – Imbalances
4.1: Reciprocal functioning – Interpersonal Dynamics, polarities and disowned selves
4.2: Masculine/Feminine Differences

Module 5 – Childhood Issues
5.1: Core Negative Image

Module 6 – Communication
6.1: Communication Blocks
6.2:  3 Winning Communication Strategies
6.3: Communication Notepad
6.4: Speaker and listener continuums for levels of differentiation
6.5: Intimacy Withholding

Module 7 – Sex
7.1: Spicing up your love life
7.2: Love life Satisfaction Questionnaire
7.3 Mismatched Libidos
7.4: Sexual Inhibitors of Desire and Arousal Checklist

Module 8 – Romance and Enrichment
8.1: The 5 love languages
8.2: The 6 Essentials of keeping your love alive
8.3: Rules for Remarkable Marriage – Harriet Lerner

Module 9 – Bringing it all together
9.1: Client Diagnostic Screening
9.2: The Hart Centre Relationship Counselling Methodology
9.3: Pitfalls to avoid in couples therapy
9.4: Counselling Certificate

Module 10 – Situation specific
10.1: Pre-marriage Insight Program – Overview
10.2: Pre-marriage Questionnaire
10.2.1 Pre-marriage Certificate Attendance Revised
10.3: Recovering from an Affair
10.3.1: Helping Couples where there are Affairs
10.3.2: Healing from Infidelity – Michele Weiner Davis
10.4: Recovering from a break up
10.5 Men and Relationship Counselling
10.6: Men assisting with Post Natal Depression

10.7 The Role of Relationship Therapy in Working with Family Violence – Dr Karen Weiss

Module 11 – Enneagram
11.1: Introduction
11.2: Typing Guidelines
11.3: Essential Elements
11.4: Levels of Psychological health
11.5: Enneagram 1
11.6: Enneagram 2
11.7: Enneagram 3
11.8: Enneagram 4
11.9: Enneagram 5
11.10: Enneagram 6
11.11: Enneagram 7
11.12: Enneagram 8
11.13: Enneagram 9
Type Charts

Module 12 – Composite Common Therapeutic Variables
12: Composite Common Therapeutic Variables

Module 13 – Schema Focused Therapy
13: Schema Focused Therapy

Module 14 – John Welwood – Perfect Love Imperfect Relationships
14.1: Perfect Love
14.2: 5 Questions
14.3 Exercise
14.4: Our Wounded Heart 

Module 15 – Anger Management
15.1: Anger Management Treatment Guidelines 
15.2: My Anger Signals 
15.3: Traffic Light Model 
15.4: My Personal Anger Monitor 
15.5: My AROs 
15.6 Cognitive Restructuring work
15.7: Emotional Bio Scan for Anger 
15.8: Issues and Action
15.9: A M Certificate Attendance

 

Module 16 – Narcissism
16.1 What is Narcissism

16.2 Narcissism DSM IV Classification

16.3 Narcissism Characteristics 

16.4 Narcissism Personality Inventory 

16.5 The Development of Narcissism & the Sacrificial Self 

16.6 Understanding the psyche of the Narcissist. Sam Vaknin

16.7 Narcissism & Attachment Theory 

16.8 Narcissistic abuse experiences. Melanie Tonia Evans 

16.9 Narcissistic Mothers. Karyl McBryde

16.10 Recommended books for partners of Narcissists 

16.11 Doing therapy with a Narcissist

16.12 Why is it so difficult to leave a Narcissist?

16.13 12-Step Recovery program
 Recovery Program Summary Client handout
Personal Empowerment Recovery program 

My Relationship Patterns

Emotional Self awareness

My Lifes Design
Our Deepest fears

Criteria for a genuine partner

16.14 SBS video on Narcissism link

16.15: Joining through the truth – Terry Real
16.16: Narcissism – Movies, TV & other resources

Module 17 – Selected Gottman Resources

17.1 The Sound Relationship House & the Unhealthy Relationship House
17.2 Building Love Map exercise

17.3 Managing Conflict: Conflict Blueprint

17.4 Managing Conflict: Dreams within Conflict

17.5 Managing Conflict: Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident

17.6 Create Shared Meaning – Rituals of connection

Module 18 – Pornography Addiction
18.1 Porn Viewing.  What is Normal?
18.2 Assessment of Pornography Addiction
18.3 An Intimacy Oriented Approach to Sex
18.4  8 Therapeutic Steps in Healing from Porn Addiction and Use
18.5: Porn and Your Husband
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8.6: Pornography Accountability Software

Module 19 –  Barry McCarthy – Integrating Sexual Issues into Couple Therapy
19.1 Arousal and Erection Guidelines
19.2 Core Concepts
19.3 Couple Sexual Style
19.4 Crucial Points for Satisfying Sex
19.5 Develop Alternative Sexual Scenarios
19.6 Dimensions of the Good Enough Sex Model
19.7 Exercises for Revitalizing and Maintaining Sexual Desire
19.8 Factors Influencing Sexual Response
19.9 Fatally Flawed Marriages
19.10 Female Sexual Dysfunction
19.11 Five dimensions of touch
19.12 Good Enough Couple Sex is Great Sex
19.13 Guidelines – Learning Ejaculatory Control
19.14 Guidelines for Female Pleasure
19.15 Guidelines for Overcoming Ejaculatory Inhibition
19.16 Guidelines for Revitalizing and Maintaining Sexual Desire
19.17 Guidelines for Sex After 60
19.18 Keys to Successful Use of Pro-Sex Medications
19.19 Male-Female Equity Guidelines
19.20 Overview of Integrative Cognitive-Behavioural Sex Therapy
19.21 Psychological Relational and Sexual History Format
19.22 Relapse Prevention Strategies and Guidelines
19.23 Sex Scandals and Healthy Sexuality
19.24 Sex in Second Marriages
19.25 Therapy Model
19.26 What Predicts Satisfying, Stable and Sexual Marriages


Module 20 – Webinars with Sandra Pertot – Sexual Issues
20.1.1 Erectile Dysfunction Webinar
20.1.2 Erectile Dysfunction PPP
20.1.3 Pelvic Floor-viagra-placebo-Sommers
20.1.4 ED Pelvic Floor -Dorey 2004
20.1.5 Pelvic floor muscle training for men

20.2.1 Premature & Delayed Ejaculation Webinar
20.2.2 Premature Delayed Ejaculation PPP Webinar
20.2.3 PE coloured slides

20.3.1 Porn Addiction & Hypersexuality Webinar
20.3.2 Porn Addiction Hypersexuality PPP

20.4.1 Low Libido & Mismatched Libido Webinar
20.4.2 Low Libido Mismatched Libidos PPP

20.5.1  Case Discussion Audio
20.5.2
3 Cases discussed in Case Discussion

Module 21 – Emotionally-Focused Therapy with Jennifer Fitzgerald
21.1  EFT_
21.2 Treating infidelity with EFT
21.3 Infinity Loop

Module 22 – Conference Sydney 2015 – The Psychology of Men with David Wexler

22.1.1  MEN IN THERAPY PART 1
22.1.2 MEN IN THERAPY PART 2
22.2  Shame-o-phobia
22.3  Prevention Plan
22.4  Self Disclosure
22.5.1  Broken Mirror 1. Chapter 1 Part 1 When Good Men Behave Badly. David Wexler
22.5.2  Broken Mirror 2
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2.5.3 Broken Mirror 3

Module 23 – How to Rebuild Trust (Audio)

Module 24 – Conference Coolangatta 2016 Robert Masters

24.1Disempowering our Inner Critic
24.2 Eroticizing Our Unresolved Wounds
24.3 Having a Conscious Rant
24.4 Some notes on shame
24.5 Steps Essential to Authentic Intimacy
24.6 The Many Faces of Aggression

Module 25 – Conference Hawaii 2017 Terry Real – Relational Life Institute

25.1 Men are not Raised to be Intimate
25.2 Joining through the truth
25.3New Rules of Marriage presentation
25.4 The New Rules of Marriage – book summary
25.5 FIVE LOSING STRATEGIES
25.6 RELATIONSHIP_GRID#1
25.7 High Impact Couples Therapy
25.8Narcissism, Infidelity and Trauma