Score range: 0-12 Your answers are pointing in one direction. It's worth listening to them.
We want to start by saying something important – taking this quiz took courage. And if your answers have landed you here, we want you to know that what you’re feeling is valid, and you are not alone.
What your responses reflect is a relationship where the foundations of safety, respect and love are seriously compromised. Not just difficult – genuinely concerning. Whether that’s because of how you’re being treated, because something has been broken for a long time, or because you know in your gut that this relationship is costing you more than it’s giving you – your answers are telling a consistent story.
That story is pointing toward leaving.
We know that’s not a simple thing to hear, and it’s an even harder thing to do. Leaving a relationship – especially a long one, especially when there are children, finances, shared lives involved – is one of the most complex and frightening things a person can face. It is not something anyone should do alone, or without support.
But staying in a relationship that is harming you is also not a solution. And if any of your answers touched on feeling unsafe, controlled or frightened – please know that those experiences are serious, they are not your fault, and there is specific support available for exactly what you’re going through.
You deserve a life that doesn’t feel like survival. And there are people who can help you find it.
If you are concerned about your safety or the safety of your children, please contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 – available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you are in immediate danger, call 000.
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