Score Range 13-24 Something in you is pulling away. That's worth paying attention to.
Your answers reflect a relationship that isn’t working – and on some level, you already know that. There may still be moments of connection, fragments of what you once had, or reasons you’ve stayed that feel real and valid. But underneath all of that, something in you is pulling toward the door.
That pull is information. It doesn’t mean you have to act on it immediately. But it does mean it’s worth taking seriously rather than explaining away.
What your score reflects is a relationship with significant problems across multiple areas – respect, connection, effort, safety or all of the above. Not just a rough patch. Not just a communication problem that could be fixed with a weekend workshop. Something more fundamental that would require real, sustained change from both people to address.
The honest question at this stage is whether that change is possible – and whether your partner is capable of and willing to make it. Because wanting to stay is not enough on its own. The person who needs to change has to want it too, and has to actually do it.
If there is any part of you that wants to try before you go, that part deserves to be explored – with proper support, with clear expectations, and with a realistic timeframe. But if you’ve already tried, already waited, already given more chances than you can count – your gut may be telling you something your head isn’t ready to say yet.
Wherever you land – you deserve clarity. And you deserve support getting there.
If any of your answers touched on feeling controlled, monitored or unsafe, please reach out to 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 – available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
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