My initial experience as a psychologist was working with individuals and I soon became aware of how significant our relationships are and the impact they have on our mental health. This lead me to working with both couples and families as a whole and I have seen a significant improvement in outcomes, particularly long term.

2. What are the most common relationships problems that you see in couples coming to you?

The most common problem cited by clients are communication issues. This often relates to differences in how affection is expressed or valued; differences or difficulties in expressing how a person feels, or blaming their partner for how they feel; or expecting your partner to predict your needs. Often therapy involves getting back to basics and getting to know your partner again, what their hopes or dreams are both individually but also for the relationship.

3. What would you like clients to know about the couple counselling process before they come in?

This is an opportunity to move past those issues that have become gridlocked and result in having the same fights over and over. It is not a matter of deciding who is right or wrong or resolving a particular issue, but rather developing the skills in order to manage all conflict that will bring about lasting change.

4. If you had one word of advice for couples with children, what would it be?

By committing to improve your relationship you are effectively helping your family as a whole.

5. What advice would you give to couples trying to rebuild their relationship after an affair?

If both parties have a desire to remain in the relationship and are willing to follow the process in order to repair and forgive then the result can be a more open, honest and fulfilling relationship than you’ve ever had.

6. What, for you, are the most important things that couples need to remember if they want their relationship to thrive, instead of just survive?

Remember the reasons why you chose to be with your partner, and continue to choose your partner on a daily basis. This enables you to focus on your partner’s positive qualities rather than only seeing the negatives. Also small things matter, sometimes it’s the smallest of changes that can have the biggest impact.