Sex and lovemaking can be the most satisfying or disappointing part of your relationship.
Intimacy and sex are about so many things; love, fun, eroticism, lust, connection, pleasure, vulnerability and surrender.
In the early days of a relationship, it’s natural to experience an overwhelming amount of chemistry and passion for each other.
You’re excited about the next time you’re going to see them. Just their touch, or the sound of their voice can make your skin tingle.
The passion and excitement couples experience is nature’s way of bringing you both together. It’s an incredible thing to be a part of.
But when this initial rush of chemistry starts to be replaced by the more comfortable feelings of security and contentment, sexual issues may start to arise.
The desire and passion that was once felt with such intensity, can begin to dissipate.
The paradox of sex is that when it is satisfying, sex plays a small but positive role in your relationship (about 15 – 20%). BUT when sex is unsatisfying, avoided or a problem, it plays a very destructive role in your relationship (from 50 to 75%).
If you’re experiencing sexual issues in your relationship or marriage, it’s not too late to find help.
Whether we’d like to admit it or not, the partner with the least desire for sex always controls the frequency and quality of sex.
Given sufficient attention, couples can bring the passion and excitement back into both the bedroom, and the relationship.
If you’d like assistance with resolving sexual issues in your relationship, our Hart Sex Therapists can help.
Types of sexual issues with can help with
Great sex and lovemaking can be the glue that keeps you feeling deeply and physically connected with each other, enabling you to weather many storms in your relationship and life in general.
Just some of the sexual issues we can help with are:
- reigniting love and passion
- differing libidos
- low libido
- difficulty orgasming
- sex addiction
- premature ejaculation
- sex and IVF
- self-esteem and body image
- erectile dysfunction
- porn addiction
- arousal issues
- pain with intercourse
- maintaining desire
- gay/lesbian issues and sexuality
- sexual abuse
- sex during and after pregnancy
- sexual trauma
Can sexual issues be fixed?
The short answer is yes!
If intimacy or sexual issues are coming up in your relationship, you may be wondering what can be done to help?
Rest assured there are many avenues that can be taken to help sexual issues such as low libido, differing libidos, difficulty orgasming, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, porn addiction, and maintaining desire.
Sexual problems are common
Many couples (some experts estimate about 45%) have concerns or problems with sexual desire, arousal, orgasm or sexual satisfaction.
Sex problems are rarely simple – there is not one cure-all available. They are a result of psychological, physical and relationship factors and can cause great emotional suffering and distress.
Even though sex is a common topic for jokes in many social conversations, most couples don’t really talk much about what they like and don’t like with each other, nor are most people educated on how to have a great and healthy sex life.
Often it is assumed that once you have been together for a period, that the fun and quality of your sex life naturally diminishes, but research has shown that this is not the case, and that the best sex can actually happen in couples who have been in a committed relationship for 15 years or longer.
What causes sexual issues?
Sexual problems can be complex, and there may not be one simple cause. As each person and relationship is different, so are the issues that arise within it.
Often sexual issues can be brought about by causes such as:
- trying too hard
- concern about sexual performance
- stress of daily life of parenting
- unresolved relationship issues (causing resentment)
- general anxiety
- feelings of guilt
- concerns about body image
- concerns about work or overwork
- the effects of a past sexual trauma
- anti-depressant drugs
- hormonal imbalances
- medical conditions
Our Brisbane Psychologist & Sex Therapists
At the Hart Centre Brisbane, our Psychologists Natascha and Christopher, and Sex Therapists Linda and Suzanne, all specialise in Sex Therapy in addition to relationship and marriage counselling.
We have found that on most occasions our sex life and our relationships are intricately linked.
Our Hart therapists have joint skills and knowledge in both fields, so they are able to get to heart of the deeper issues at play to help you move forward in a healthy direction.
We have written many articles on common sexual problems like low libido, differing libidos, difficulty orgasming, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, porn addiction, the truth about Viagra, maintaining desire, and you can find a sample of these below.
- How Normal Is It To Watch Porn?
- Sensual touch: the cornerstone of a great sex life.
- Maintaining desire: Keeping sex exciting in a long term relationship.
- Differing libidos: How to manage them in a healthy way.
- Erectile dysfunction: Having Problems with erections
- The Secret to more sex and why women in particular, lose interest in sex.
- Penis size: How much does it really count?
- Difficulty Orgasming: How can I experience more pleasure?
- Premature Ejaculation: How to last longer in bed
Our Sex Therapy Office in Brisbane:
To enquire or book a session with us, please phone (07) 5636 1566 or 1300 830 552 and our friendly receptionists will help you.
Sex Therapy (and Couples Counselling) sessions are 50 mins
Cost: $150 – $220
Private Health Insurance Rebates and Medicare Rebates may apply.
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