Our experienced sex therapists in Melbourne can help bring back the spark that was lost and make lovemaking one of best parts of your relationship again.
Intimacy and sex are about so many things; love, fun, eroticism, lust, connection, pleasure, vulnerability and surrender. In the early days of a relationship, it’s natural to experience an overwhelming amount of chemistry and passion for each other. Just their touch or the sound of their voice can make your skin tingle.
But when this initial rush of chemistry starts to be replaced by the more comfortable feelings of security and contentment, sexual issues may start to arise. The desire and passion can begin to dissipate. The paradox of sex is that when it is satisfying, sex plays a small but positive role in your relationship (about 15 – 20%). BUT when sex is unsatisfying, avoided or a problem, it plays a very destructive role in your relationship (from 50 to 75%).
At the Hart Centre Melbourne, we have a range of psychologists, counsellors and therapists who offer sex therapy, desire & intimacy, sexual trauma and sexual addiction counselling in addition to relationship and marriage counselling.
If sexual issues are coming up in your relationship, you may be wondering what can be done to help? Rest assured there are many avenues that can be taken to help sexual issues such as low libido, different libidos, difficulty orgasming, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, porn addiction, and maintaining desire.
No one has a perfect sex life. Great sex, especially in a committed relationship, is uneven and is also variable. Often it is assumed that once you have been together for a period, that the fun and quality of your sex life naturally diminishes, but research by Laumann (1994) has shown that this is not the case, and that the best sex can happen in couples who have been in a committed relationship for 15 years or longer.
Therefore, the best sex doesn’t, in fact, happen between young couples, or first-time sexual experiences, which most of us assume. The best research suggests that regular frequency and variable, flexible couple sex that is fully integrated into your real life is the best quality, most satisfying wonderful sex for you as a couple.
Quality couple sex is made up of a blend of intimacy, desire, pleasure, eroticism and satisfaction.
The most common cause of distress in a sexual relationship arises because many people are not prepared for the extent of differences in sexual wants and needs that may occur between partners.
In the initial stages of a relationship, the intoxicating feelings of initial infatuation often mask any differences, and one or both may believe that love will conquer all. The set of expectations an individual brings to a relationship is often quite complex and detailed and problems begin when the two sets of expectations differ in significant ways.
In addition to this, problems escalate when judgements are made. The way each partner reacts to their partner’s sexual desires and preferences is a major factor in how the relationship proceeds. Negative reactions such as withdrawing, sulking, being critical, hostile, angry or abusive often become toxic over time. Even subtle reactions such as a sigh can be seen as rejecting or critical.
At Hart Centre Sydney, we can help you work though these common issues before they become deeper, and get your sex life back to the amazing place it was when you and your partner first met.
The Hart Centre offers 4 types of counselling, for different sexual issues. Therapists may offer a mix of the below types of counselling.
Desire and Intimacy Counselling:
Addictions Counselling:
Trauma Counselling:
Sex Therapy (Sexual Function and Specific Issues):
At the Hart Centre Melbourne, we have a range of Psychologists, Counsellors and Therapists who offer Sex Therapy, Desire & Intimacy, Sexual Trauma and Sexual Addiction Counselling in addition to relationship and marriage counselling. To find the therapist that suits you best, please use our purple search box above.
We have found that on most occasions our sex life and our relationships are intricately linked.
Our Hart therapists have joint skills and knowledge in both fields, so they are able to get to heart of the deeper issues at play to help you move forward in a healthy direction.
We have also written many articles on common sexual problems like low libido, different libidos, difficulty orgasming, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, porn addiction, maintaining desire, and you can find a sample of these below.
To see more articles, head to our Blog page or on our Sex Advice page.
We have found that on most occasions our sex life and our relationships are intricately linked so having joint skills and knowledge in both fields as therapists allows us to get the the heart of any combined problem and help you create both a better sex life and better relationship.
If you book a session with a Psychologist, you are also able to receive Medicare rebates for these sessions with us, through Mental Health Care Plans from your GP. Click below to get started.
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Couples Counselling & Marriage counselling sessions are 50 mins
Ranging from
$150 - $300
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