If you take 5 minutes to honestly answer these questions, it will give you an indication of whether your partners porn use is a problem problem or not. Remember, you need to be honest in your answers.
Noticing your partner’s porn use and not knowing whether it’s a normal part of a relationship or something more concerning is a genuinely confusing place to be. This quiz takes about five minutes and helps you honestly assess whether what you’re seeing points to a pattern worth addressing, or something more ordinary. There’s no shame in asking the question. That’s exactly what this is for.
This quiz looks at the signs that typically distinguish everyday porn use from a pattern that’s affecting a relationship: secrecy and dishonesty around use, changes in intimacy or desire between you, escalation in frequency or content, and the emotional impact it’s having on you and the relationship’s trust. It’s not designed to label your partner. It’s designed to help you get clear on what you’re actually noticing and feeling.
Porn use exists on a wide spectrum, and plenty of couples navigate it without it becoming a problem. Your results reflect specific patterns: secrecy, escalation, impact on intimacy. That tend to correlate with genuine relationship strain, not a moral judgment on porn use itself. A lower score generally suggests this isn’t currently undermining your relationship; a higher score suggests it’s worth an honest conversation, ideally with some outside support.
If your results have raised real concerns, you’re not overreacting, and you don’t have to navigate this alone. Our Certified therapist can help you have this conversation constructively, understand what’s driving the pattern, and work out what rebuilding trust could look like. Find Your Relationship Therapist to talk it through with someone experienced in this exact issue.
Not sure this is the right quiz for what you’re going through? A few others might be more useful:
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Yes, for many couples porn use doesn’t affect the relationship at all. Concern usually arises around secrecy, escalation, or a noticeable impact on intimacy and trust, rather than porn use itself.
Starting from curiosity rather than accusation. Focusing on how you feel and what you’ve noticed, rather than labels tends to lead to a more honest conversation. A therapist can help structure this if it feels too difficult alone.
Not necessarily. Porn use and attraction to a partner are often unrelated. However, if intimacy has genuinely declined alongside it, that combination is worth exploring together.
Not always. This quiz assesses relationship impact specifically. If you’re wondering about your own use rather than your partner’s, our Is Your Porn Use a Problem? quiz may be more relevant.
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