Score range: 0-10 This is heavier than it should be
Based on what you shared, you’re carrying a lot right now. Across the questions you answered, the picture is clear – your partner’s porn use has likely moved well beyond what feels normal or manageable, and it’s affecting you, your relationship, your sense of self, and possibly your sense of safety in this partnership.
You’re not overreacting. What you described is significant. It’s also, importantly, recoverable – but not on your own.
Speak to someone who knows this territory. Partners in your situation often try to manage this alone for far too long, partly because of shame, partly because they don’t know who to turn to without making things worse. Working with a therapist who specialises in betrayal and problematic porn use is the most direct route to clarity, and to deciding what you actually want to do next.
We can match you with a therapist within 48 hours. They’ll specialise in this area, and the conversation is confidential.
That’s okay too. Many partners need time to process what they’ve discovered before they’re ready to bring anyone else in. Our partner toolkit is built for exactly this stage. It gives you private, structured support to understand what you’re dealing with, recognise the patterns, and decide what’s right for you.
This is a personal reflection tool, not a lead generator. We won’t chase you, push you, or contact you to book therapy. You’ll know where to find us.
Your relationship matters. For over 20 years, we’ve helped over 83,000 clients as Australia’s leading couples counselling group. With over 230+ Hart Centre Certified therapists, finding yours is easy.
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